I didnt notice you had two posts @caeryx...
The thing about the being negative all the time and stuff is that its not like its wrong to just speak your mind or feel bad or even just vent for 5 minutes I mean we're human beings but being hardcore depressed over being lonely ain't going to get you anywhere. However it is apparently a fact that you are better off actually looking for someone rather than waiting for them to "just come along". Apparently those relationships last longer. So just sitting around believing that just being happy and positive will get you anywhere is false, ESPECIALLY if you are a man. Men always get shit for being lonely too, like if you're just sad because you're alone one day, someone's always there to tell you to fuck off and cheer up because everybody thinks you hate the human race when you're sad for some reason. Its silly lol. It's basically like this in chronological order:
-I get rejected-alone-girls think, "omg he must hate us because he's alone and we're with our boyfriends"-girls get bored of boyfriends-come back to me, thinking I've been waiting-I say no or have someone who isn't them-girl thinks, "omg he must hate women because nobody says no to me and means it" (if I say no) or "Omg he settled for that bitch" (if I have a new gf)
The actual Elliot Rogers of the world are few and far between, and there are legitimate concerns to be had with the way people conduct their sexual lives and other social outcomes with or without being sad and angry with it. The most important thing about your mentioning this is that it is ultimately a choice, for your own health at bare minimum.
The thing that perplexes me is that some girls will be getting beaten up everynight by some ugly five-foot-four avocado taster and all I actually wanna do is make them happy in the first place so like whatever, as long as you don't show the hurting side of yourself first then it's ok in my opinion
I'm not going to fall for some crap where someone's pulling me along by a string saying we'll be together some day and I'm supposed to just suck it up and keep giving them love and positivity and forgiving them for no reason. There's nothing to forgive anyways if someone just doesn't want to be with you. It's ok to be sad about having nobody but you can't hold it against people. Even if they are with someone who treats them like shit and is worthless and they love you, they're just retarded. Not my problem, why would I want to be with someone like that?
It doesn't matter if they're just "YOLO" and young and fooling around, if they said No to me then I probs won't feel like giving them a second chance. That's the way I see it. I'm not going to just sit around like, "hey baby look at how much I can offer you, I'm such a good provider baby don't you want to come to me?
". In a rare case I will be like that, but in general that's not going to help either of us by the looks of it.
Oh and also the "confidence" thing is so odd to me. I've been told I lack confidence one time right after my mom died and was resuscitated. It's like, dude, my mom just died, asshole. It's not that I lack confidence it's that realistically the girl in question is probably going to say no, and maybe I just don't have it in me to walk up to her pretending that I "know" she will say yes and just force myself to smile and be all perfect just for her. I feel like that will actually hinder your success more than if you just WANT to talk to the person. Treat it like work that you have to be "confident" for, and you'll feel like a telemarketer every time you ask a girl out
I've found some girls are flattered by the idea that you aren't typically open, but just like them enough to be confident around them. Even if they think you're a loser, it at least affirms that they are and you believe they are a nice person. That's got my foot in the door many more times than just forcing myself to be confident. But a lack of confidence or low self esteem is a killer in every situation.
At least though we do things the natural way more or less. We live in a culture that simultaneously is obsessed with instant gratification like fast food, but has a weird romanticize for the simple life, and what this is creating is a sexual marketplace that is just fucked up for reasons beyond what can typically be rationally explained. In twenty years, women will probably order their husband online and go through a drive-thru for sex. Who knows.
It's just more natural at our(?) age to have gone through at least moderate heartbreak, rather than ALWAYS have someone there as part of some underground social program to satisfy us. That's all these people are, they are unconsciously a part of a social program that will ensure they will always have access to pleasure at the expense of their very individuality, maybe even their souls. Not that I don't wish we had a similar program for identifying and network with other Satanists but if you are just "a punk" or "a metalhead" or a "sports fan" it's gonna be way fucking easier for you to meet people and get along with them especially if you have few other standards.
That's why it's good to have at least some alternative interest or other as a means to just meet people, but unless you're really committed to the party lifestyle, the vast majority of people are not getting their social, sexual and romantic needs met. That's just statistics.
