Sexuality #79000 Bdsm/control kink

[Ask Zeus Operator]

Is it unhealthy to want to be controlled and punished? I enjoy this type of behavior and wish my partner would engage with it more. Or should I try to lessen this? I think a part of it stems from trauma. But I also just enjoy the safety of someone else telling me what to do (if I trust them fully). And I enjoy feeling pain. Should I indulge this a little bit (not to an extreme where I actually get really injured or something) or is it bad altogether? It makes me feel safe and I don't know if I can change being wired like that

 

[Anemos Aiteros]

That may be related to masochism, the m in bdsm, the desire to feel pain.

The important thing is to avoid the pleasure of feel pain, the rest should be decided unanimously in the couple.

 

[Recycler1337]

I often come across questions here about these topics and sexuality in general.Personally, I would draw an analogy between sex and food - you can add some spice or make the dish unusual, but it is unlikely to be useful to eat broken glass mixed with nails. If you do not eat at all/eat little - it is bad, if you gorge yourself to the point of madness - it is bad, the same with sex and all the practices that are in it. In JoS/ToZ, forbidden topics are clearly defined - logically and sensibly justified and not based on the personal preferences of any of the founders. I also saw information on the site that Ida and Pingala, depending on their activity, can encourage desires to dominate or submit in sex. Just maintain adequacy and balance and find the right partner and everything will be fine!