UDDTHU
Member
Please forgive me if my topic is outside the usual discussions here, but I feel terrible right now because of a relationship I was in and have now lost.
This has left me deeply sad and hopeless. I ask you, please, to help me in any way you can. Thank you.
I’m still very young، just recently a young man. I’ve had long-distance relationships and two local relationships before. My most recent relationship ended about two or three weeks ago: a girl I had known for nearly a month left me.
She told me a month isn’t enough time to truly fall in love. I understand that, and I know many of you would agree. But I really cared for her. For me, time wasn’t the main issue، what mattered was the quality of the relationship. In that month we even traveled together; although it lasted only about a month, it felt to me as if at least three months had passed because we progressed so quickly.
She was a good person، not aimless or hollow like so many young people today، and I felt a great deal of happiness with her. For the first time I believed someone could matter to me and I could matter to someone else. She was beautiful، like the moon.
But I lost her, because even as we grew closer during that month, our problems grew too.
We were both sensitive and easily hurt; we would quickly get upset with each other and our disagreements sometimes turned into arguments and fights. It reached the point where we needed couples therapy to resolve our issues.
In the end she told me our relationship lacked stability، there were always fights and I don’t think our relationship would ever become stable. She said she had spent several years trying to manage her mind and nerves with therapy and medication, and that being with me threatened to undo her hard work.
In that month I also placed heavy expectations on her: I wanted us to see each other every day and spend a lot of time together. Although we chatted every day, it wasn’t enough for me. I wanted more attention, importance, and priority from her. That pressure made her feel stressed and she kept telling me to slow down، she said this made her fearful and unhappy.
Since losing her and seeing how easily she moved on, I’ve turned back to smoking. I want to quit, but my grief is overwhelming.
I know you will tell me to focus on myself and my own growth، and I am doing that، but what else can I do that I haven’t already? Will I ever meet someone with whom I can experience true, real love?
Is there a way، using the knowledge of this great and sacred place, rituals, or practices like runes and ceremonies, to attain a genuine romantic relationship?
Thank you endlessly for any help you can give me. I await your messages.
This has left me deeply sad and hopeless. I ask you, please, to help me in any way you can. Thank you.
I’m still very young، just recently a young man. I’ve had long-distance relationships and two local relationships before. My most recent relationship ended about two or three weeks ago: a girl I had known for nearly a month left me.
She told me a month isn’t enough time to truly fall in love. I understand that, and I know many of you would agree. But I really cared for her. For me, time wasn’t the main issue، what mattered was the quality of the relationship. In that month we even traveled together; although it lasted only about a month, it felt to me as if at least three months had passed because we progressed so quickly.
She was a good person، not aimless or hollow like so many young people today، and I felt a great deal of happiness with her. For the first time I believed someone could matter to me and I could matter to someone else. She was beautiful، like the moon.
But I lost her, because even as we grew closer during that month, our problems grew too.
We were both sensitive and easily hurt; we would quickly get upset with each other and our disagreements sometimes turned into arguments and fights. It reached the point where we needed couples therapy to resolve our issues.
In the end she told me our relationship lacked stability، there were always fights and I don’t think our relationship would ever become stable. She said she had spent several years trying to manage her mind and nerves with therapy and medication, and that being with me threatened to undo her hard work.
In that month I also placed heavy expectations on her: I wanted us to see each other every day and spend a lot of time together. Although we chatted every day, it wasn’t enough for me. I wanted more attention, importance, and priority from her. That pressure made her feel stressed and she kept telling me to slow down، she said this made her fearful and unhappy.
Since losing her and seeing how easily she moved on, I’ve turned back to smoking. I want to quit, but my grief is overwhelming.
I know you will tell me to focus on myself and my own growth، and I am doing that، but what else can I do that I haven’t already? Will I ever meet someone with whom I can experience true, real love?
Is there a way، using the knowledge of this great and sacred place, rituals, or practices like runes and ceremonies, to attain a genuine romantic relationship?
Thank you endlessly for any help you can give me. I await your messages.
